MY POINT OF VIEW: DILEMMA

Last week Saturday, my friend, Adeola Adeniyi launched his first book, titled ‘Relationships and love: my point of view?’ Though I had the chance to read the book before it came out but, I chose not to. I was not prepared to read whatever he had to write because I was scared he could be talking to me somehow. Not that I couldn’t take his admonition or truth, but I just wasn’t ready yet. However, I was happy when I read the introduction to the book and I realized it was based on his past experience, though I know that I have a lesson to learn from it.

At a point during the programme, a drama played out and it was about ladies who were too demanding of men and how they usually end up alone. Yeah, everyone felt the impact of the drama and slang was even coined out of it that day, ‘my point of view’. Everyone had a good laugh, but was the lesson well learnt?

Today, a male friend of mine asked me when I was going to show him my boyfriend. When I asked him what kind of a man he would expect to see me associating with, you can only imagine his response. The qualities all summed up to ‘successes. If tomorrow, I start introducing some 400 level guy to my friends, they would be grossly disappointed, because at this stage, they expect me to hang around workers and men who are almost ready for marriage. That man is just not around yet.

 Like I always tell my friends, I’m too young to grow desperate and I cannot point to any of my friends who are in relationships that can make me wish I had one. No offence to my friends, I respect their relationships, but it’s not like anyone of them is planning marriage right now. I sincerely wish them the best though.

Anyway, my dilemma lies in the fact that no one can tell me whether it is proper to go with your heart,(I’m not the ‘God’s will’ person, not that He doesn’t count though) or consider all the considerables. The new statement in town now is that love is not enough, (which I totally agree with). My problem now is not finding a man at all, but the right man.

My friends say I’m too demanding of my man, but non of them has a short, not handsome or beautiful, prospective or not to- die- for partners who complement them perfectly. Why should I be different? Not that I’m comparing myself, but I do deserve beautiful things too and I should have them.

Well, I do believe that some where, my man will meet me by divine design and all these years of waiting will not go unrewarded.  

'The serious me' series

The importance of the media in the life of any child cannot be underscored. The most formative years of any child are not in the university, they happen to take place in the home and formative schools like the primary and secondary schools, and most importantly, the home. Moreso, the most important tools of formation include the parents, immediate family members, peers and a whole lot of television.

What children see especially these days can even be attributed mostly as the biggest formative tool of any child's development. I used to believe that a child's grammatical fluency could not be at it's most impressive until he/she grows up, but my 7-yr old sister proved me wrong when she was barely 3. Thanks to cartoon network, i could hardly catch up to her English. The words that came out of her mouth were just amazing. Not like she was saying something out of the world, but her coordination and fluency were just so serious. I remember vividly that even at age ten, i was always careful as to what came out of my mouth, (thanks to my 'locacious' environment). However, I believe that i have turned out really good today thanks to television.

However, as good as the media is to the child's development is, it is also leaving a number of dastard impressions imprinted on their minds. You only need to attend a 5-yr old birthday today and you can see for yourself what i mean. the kind of erotic dances that these kids do on the dance-floors make you wonder whether they are really kids. Funny enough, the mothers seem to be proud of what these kids are getting exposed to daily. They even encourage them by buying them clothes that allows them to imitate the dancers they see on t.v. I have seen two videos of girls dancing in birthdays, that left me appalled, as well as the people around me who saw these videos.

I am the type of person that advocates that kids should be allowed to have a rich knowledge of how things operate in the world by exposing them to it and telling them how it affects them, letting them know the truth about about issues. It doesn't make any sense that these truths be hidden from children when they can as well be exposed to them elsewhere outside the parents' radar. However, the uttermost caution should be taken in doing this. Having been privileged to meet a lot of people and study them in this institution, I am of the opinion that thing need to change fast. Thank God for my parents and Jesus, maybe i would have been lost to the media too, considering my love for it.

Hey, am i sounding too serious? Sorry. I can be lucid and aggressive at times and this just happens to be one of those moments. Talk to you guys later.

Adventures...

Well, like i mentioned in my profile, i can be quite impulsive in doing things. In fact, most of the times, I must have have acted before realizing the consequences of my actions.  For me, adventures are so irresistible. I love going the extra length to gather experience. I'm always grateful to God for my salvation. Though, it always seems so hard, but i'v always been able to caution myself and act within limits.

I'v had a number of adventures and i can tell you that the most attendant feature of any adventure is the risk involved. While you are anticipating all the possible consequences, the feeling of  excitement that also tingles you makes it almost so hard to resist, it is just so.... aaargh! Well, there are still a number of things that i wish to do before i die. Crazy things that i have absolutely no idea of.

Suggestions as to crazy adventurous things to do before i die are highly welcome. Ciao!

Just saying: changed my blog page.

Just saying: changed my blog page.: "so guys, i just create a new blog bcos the old one seems to be elusive. I can't seem to rem my password anymore. From now on , you can view ..."

changed my blog page.

so guys, i just create a new blog bcos the old one seems to be elusive. I can't seem to rem my password anymore. From now on , you can view me here. thanks.